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Subtle Attacker

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We all know them. They appear to be so decent and innocent. However, they turn out to be your worst enemies.

We all know the person who says or does things just to upset us. The Subtle Attacker could be a co-worker, client, family member, close friend, or a mere acquaintance. In any case, this person just loves taking the "pot shots" at you. For example, Subtle Attacker: "I can't stand make-up. Most people look like clowns with it on. I prefer the natural look." You--are standing there actually with make-up on of course, looking a little too good for the Subtle Attacker. Therefore, in an effort to take you down and to feel better, the Subtle Attacker goes for the jugular. You don't know whether to defend yourself or ignore it. Proper Response? "I like make-up because if applied properly, it can really enhance a woman's natural features and put a little color in a pale face. Some women could really benefit from it."

The Subtle Attacker has low self-esteem, and seeks to fill in this gap, this short-coming, by attacking others in jealousy, childishness, and ignorance. Another case of the Subtle Attacker: You and the S.A. have completed a project together and most of the work was completed by you or your own creative ideas. The Subtle Attacker takes all of the credit for the project and relishes that you aren't getting any. Nor, will the Subtle Attacker give you credit or include you. That's the idea. To make you think you put forth all or most of the work for them to look good and take credit for it. They all take credit from the work of others. They aren't lazy, they are just ignorant and less spirit-based--working strictly for ego.

Here is another favorite of the Subtle Attacker: They offer to do a favor for you, just to let everyone know that you could not make it without them. The S.A. took pity on poor you. What a Saint!

The Subtle Attacker can see all of your faults and other peoples's, but not their own. What a shame! They are just so holier than thou.

The Subtle Attacker is usually a regular church goer but can party with the best of them. At church and other social functions, the S.A. must get attention. If not, then the S.A. will never want to come back there again. The Subtle Attacker is usually a gossiper. The S.A. can't wait to share a confidence and then act innocently and uninvolved when the crap hits the fan.

The Subtle Attacker will stare at their victim. Studying ways to take them down. This person knows absolutely everything. And will do anything to keep from looking at their own messed up lives.

The best ways to handle a Subtle Attacker are:

1. Ignore them if you think the comments or actions are so ridiculous, you would feel foolish to even try to attempt to correct them.

2. Feel sorry and pray for the Subtle Attacker. This person never received unconditional love and most likely has been molested and felt no one could help. Now the person needs a heaping helping of your energy and others to recompensate for that. Making others feel like trash may become a life-long career for the S.A. The Bible does say to Bless our enemies.

3. Try not to ever discuss what is troubling you in the presence of a Subtle attacker. It just gives them even more weapons--sticks to beat you with.

4. Respond with the truth. What else can we do? Respond in a nice, polite and intelligent manner keeping a low tone of voice and be calm. Keep a rational view, without emotion or feeling. And, if you feel that the S.A. has ruined your reputation, keep your head held high and know that No Weapon Formed Against You Shall Prosper and what we sow, we do reap. When necessary, explain your view on the matter and where you stand.

Unfortunately, many people come right out and say or do things to offend you. However, this is too obvious for the Subtle Attacker. They want to hurt you in an inconspicuous manner, so that when you protest or argue, then they can say: "I don't know what you are talking about. Why would you make such a big deal over that when it wasn't even about you." Or, "did you think I meant you, of course not." Or, "I didn't mean it like that, don't be so sensitive."

Subtle Attackers do not want people to think badly of them, so pray for the Spirit of God's light to come forth and reveal some truths about this person. They will be helped by this effort to pray for and bless them.

The Subtle Attacker will also choose to tell you things that obviously, you are already aware of. The S.A. will treat you as if you are ignorant and will speak badly of you to others whenever possible. However, when the Subtle Attacker is in your face, this person will act as if he/she is your very best friend. The Subtle Attacker may pretend to be your friend for "juicy tidbits" to use against you in the guise that they are so concerned with your well being.

Most of the time, the Subtle Attacker will try to make you look like the bad guy: you would made to apppear overly sensitive, childish, incompetent, or just plain evil, while the S.A. is in line for sainthood and can do no wrong.

This is very real. There are Subtle Attackers and some don"t know when to stop. They can drain your energy and turn you into a monster. Don't fall for it. If all else fails, just laugh at them. Don't ever behave like the Subtle Attacker. When standing before God, let your hands be clean. If someone wants to act a fool, know that it is being recorded by the Heavenly Realm. Humble yourself and God will uplift you.

I hope that this article will uplift you today.

Blessings.